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Attachment theory is often explored as a central pillar of human development and psychology, primarily through the lens of evolutionary biology. Anne Power’s TED talk captures the essence of attachment theory from this perspective, framing attachment as a survival mechanism shaped by human evolution. Yet, there is another lens through which to view attachment—one that recognizes it as a divine design, an intentional and sacred part of our humanity, not merely a byproduct of evolution.

This article presents an alternative thesis: attachment is not an evolutionary adaptation but a profound and intentional gift, woven into the very fabric of who we are. Misinterpreting or undervaluing this divine design could distort our approach to relationships, potentially causing harm. As I discuss in my book, Unshakeable: Cultivating Resilience in Challenging Times, true resilience and healing arise from recognizing and honoring the sacred nature of our connections. Through this understanding, we can begin to practice what I call “Kintsugi for the Soul”—a healing journey that embraces our brokenness with courage, even when safety feels uncertain.